Student takes own life after poor performance in SLC exam
A student in Syangja district committed suicide on Thursday after his School Leaving Certificate (SLC) examination didn't go well.

Deepak Poudel of Putalibazaar-9 took his own life by hanging himself from a tree nearby his house yesterday night after he didn't do well in the Compulsory English paper that same morning.

Police said that Deepak committed suicide as he was very unhappy over his performance in the exam and feared that he will fail in the subject.

SLC, which is considered the gateway for further education in the country, is also dreaded by many who call it the "Iron gate" due to very high percentage of failure in it.

Also, many students in rural areas of country fail in their English paper owing to lack of good teachers and adequate reference materials for the subject.

Every year reports of young students taking their own life by consuming poison or hanging from a tree after failing in the SLC examination hit the media headlines.

Students, College & Schools and Politics..
Below are some horrorable examples of students being linked with Politics rather than ther studies.....!

Primary and Secondary School attendance in Nepal

Education System in Nepal

The education system in Nepal is the same in the present as that of the past.

I mean in the kinder garden, teacher teach us A for Apple, B for Banana, C for Cat and so on. If you ask the child he/she repeat the same thing that the teacher teach him/her. If we say A for Axe, Ant or something else, the child doesn’t agree with us. He/She only accept with the fact that A stands for Apple.

From my view point, our education system should teach us the child about the different items that A is stand for. Similarly, if A stands for Apple, not only the pictures in the book is
sufficient, the child should see the product out of his/her book. The child should see, taste and provides him/her the chance to analysis it and query him/her experience.

I thought only these things can produce the Brilliant Nepalese in the World otherwise we will be always following something and cannot create our something ORIGINAL.

Primary and Secondary School attendance in Nepal

In Nepal, the official primary school age is 5 to 9 years. The official secondary school age is 10 to 16 years. The primary school net attendance rate (NAR) in 2001 is shown in Figure 1 and the secondary school NAR in Figure 2.

Overall, 73.5 percent of all children of primary school age were attending primary school. In spite of the progress toward gender parity over the past two decades, girls still attend primary school to a lesser degree than boys. The primary NAR of girls is 66.8 percent, compared to 79.9 percent for boys. However, other disparities in school attendance are larger than the male-female disparity. In rural areas, 72.0 percent of children of primary school age are in school, compared to 89.8 percent in urban areas. The biggest disparities are linked to household wealth. In the richest 20 percent of all household in Nepal, the primary NAR is 94.3 percent. As household wealth declines, the primary NAR also falls and among children from the poorest 20 percent of all households, the primary NAR is only 59.6 percent.

Figure 1: Primary school attendance in Nepal

Source: Nepal 2001 Demographic and Health Survey (DHS).

Less than half of all Nepali children continue their education at the secondary level. In the country as a whole, 30.9 percent of all children of secondary school age attend secondary school. Among boys, the secondary NAR is 35.1 percent, compared to 26.6 percent among girls. As at the primary level, the disparities linked to the area of residence and to household wealth are larger than the disparities linked to gender. In urban areas, the secondary NAR is 50.6 percent and in rural areas it is 28.7 percent. One likely explanation for this difference is the scarcity of secondary schools in rural Nepal. The link between poverty and school attendance at the secondary level of the education system is even stronger than at the primary level. For children from the richest 20 percent of all households, the secondary NAR is 57.0 percent. Among the poorest 20 percent of all households the secondary NAR is 14.6 percent, less than a quarter of the NAR in the richest households.

Figure 2: Secondary school attendance in Nepal

Source: Nepal 2001 Demographic and Health Survey (DHS).

In conclusion, whereas Nepal has been able to move towards gender disparity in its education system, children from rural areas and from poorer households continue to be at a great disadvantage.

Death of child

Infant Mortality/ Death Of a Child

When people realize three of our children have died, we hear comments about how amazing it is that our marriage survived such a loss. We also hear dumb statements about how lucky we are to have four healthy kids and how our little ones are in a better place.

Realities

The reality is that our marriage survived these heartaches because we worked really hard to make sure the two of us would be okay. The reality is that having surviving children doesn't lessen the pain of losing children. The reality is that I don't care where they may be in the after life, I would prefer to have our babies with us.

What to Do for Grieving Parents

If the two of us appear to be defensive ... it is because we are defensive. We cringe when we hear what some people say to grieving parents. They have enough to cope with. These couples don't need to deal with hurtful remarks.

If you don't know what to say, then don't say anything. Just give them a hug. Let them know you are available to listen and that you care.

Studies and Statistics About Grieving Parents

There are many who believe that there is an extremely high divorce rate (80-90%) when a couple loses a child. Those claims are based on statistics from a study done by Teresa Rando in 1985. ('Bereaved parents: particular difficulties, unique factors, and treatment issues', Social Work, vol. 30, p. 20). In 1999, another survey entitled When a Child Dies was conducted by The Compassionate Friends organization.

The results about newly bereaved parents didn't match the earlier findings. It is clear that although couples experience great stress, their marriages aren't destined to fall apart. "Overall, 72% of parents who were married at the time of their child's death are still married to the same person. The remaining 28% of marriages include 16% in which one spouse had died, and only 12% of marriages that ended in divorce ... Furthermore, even among the 12% of parents whose marriages ended in divorce, only one out of four of them felt that the impact of the death of their child contributed to their divorce."

"While most of the effect after miscarriage is seen in the first two or three years, the impact of a stillbirth persisted for nearly a decade."
Source: Margarita Bauza. "Couples more likely to break up after pregnancy loss, U-M research finds." UMich.edu. 4/05/2010.

"Experts say that parents typically never "get over" the loss of a child, but rather learn to adjust and to integrate the loss into their lives. Still, the death of a child remains one of the most stressful life events imaginable. One-fourth to one-third of parents who lose a child report that their marriage suffers strains that sometimes prove irreparable."
Source: Jane Brody. Jane Brody's Guide to the Great Beyond: A Practical Primer to Help You and Your Loved Ones Prepare Medically, legally, and Emotionally for the End of Life Random House. 2009. pg. 143.

"It's estimated that one in five families experiences the pain of miscarriage."
Source: Megan Meany. "Revealing the 'raw heartache' of miscarriage." MSNBC.msn.com. 9/2/2009.

Issues Couples May Face

The first six months following the loss of a child is when the majority of divorces occur. Problems that couples often encounter while dealing with grief include:

• Lack of communication with one another.
• How to parent their other children.
• Overprotectiveness of other children.
• Whether or not to have another baby.
• Differences in how to grieve.
• Blame and guilt.
• Turning to alcohol and drugs.
• Looking for someone or something to blame.
• Talking about the deceased child.
• Wondering when and where and how to deal with a child's belongings.
• Decision about whether or not counseling is needed.
• Financial concerns.
• Turning away from one another.
• One spouse may tend to feel anger sooner than the other.
• One may tend to feel sadness sooner than the other.
• One may want to "do" something to make things right again.
• One may just want to "be."
• If a couple had problems before the child's death, those problems can become more difficult to deal with.

Talk to One Another

• Don't ignore or try to bury your feelings. The death of a child will leave you feeling weak and dazed and in shock. You may find yourselves feeling alone and sullen.
• It is vital that a couple who has lost a child communicate their feelings with one another. Share your feelings of helplessness, confusion, anger, depression, pain, guilt, fear, and even hate.
• Learn and understand the stages of death and dying. Don't allow yourselves to get stuck in one of the stages. If you find your spouse becoming aloof, or if disharmony begins to get more intense in your relationship, seek counseling. Don't try to get through this alone.

What We Learned

The two of us learned that it was important to remember that life is precious. By being overprotective of our children and one another, we were cheating all of us out of life. We learned to accept that we couldn't always keep our children safe and that we couldn't be in total control of our lives. Bob learned that big boys do cry and that he didn't have to be the strong one or the one to tough it out. We have since tried to live our lives in the present moment.

There Are No Quick Fixes

Although the first two years are the hardest, the pain is long-lasting. As the two of us were discussing writing this article, we found ourselves with watery eyes and getting emotional even though it has been many years since we lost Little Angel, Susan Sarah, and Teresa Rose.

Although it is important to accept your feelings, it is also important to get on with living your life and to not dwell on your grief. Find ways to laugh with one another. With your love for one another, you will weather this storm together.

Suggested Reading

• Parenting
• Handle a Crisis Together
• Sharing Feelings

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We ask why all these happens more and more in Nepal. When parents need to hold their children's hand n show the way to the bright future they cry in sorrow n take their children's to the point of death... Why.?????????